He’s addicted to dating apps

[Magicalmondays]

I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 years. Thought everything was great but I recently discovered he has been using dating apps to meet women (probably for most of our relationship).

When I confronted him about this he said he “has an issue with the apps” but he only ever met for a drink, nothing more and that he did it because he felt insecure.

There’s never a good reason for this is there? He is making me feel like I am being unreasonable and controlling.

I don't understand what you're asking here.

End the relationship. There's nothing to discuss.

He’s cheating in plain sight and on the look out for a better offer.
It’s not even a question imo - of course you need to end it.

You're in an open relationship. I would get an STD test and not believe a word that comes out of his mouth.

Get a friend to contact him and see if he goes home to hers if she offers…

But honestly, I’d ditch him. It’s not worth the trouble.

Men always gas light when they be been caught.

They often get angry too.

Hes not the one OP.

Are you meeting up with other men? He’s hedging his bets.

What a toad.

Oh, he’s been dumped! He’s just so good at spinning lies and making it sound like it’s not that bad that I end up doubting myself.

Of course he does because he wants his cake and to eat it. You need to block him on everything and move on. Well done for dumping him, I know it's not easy.

Don’t doubt yourself it really is that bad and it’s definitely him not you. Hes gaslighting you because he’s been caught out

Well done dumping him straight away

"Addicted to dating apps" is a hilarous attempt at getting away with it. Nevertheless, if you take it at face value he needs to be single while he works on his mental health.

Give your head a wobble, love. What exactly are you asking here?! Ffs

Yep.

Well done you for dumping the piece of crap!!! Don't look back.... move on... you deserve better. What an absolute scumbag weasel !!!!!

'He has a problem'

Babe he is the problem block him

If a man is in an exclusive, serious relationship, with someone he genuinely loves or has strong feelings for, then he has no need to be using dating apps. If he's using dating apps to meet women for 'drinks', then he's keeping his options open, in case someone better comes along. He most certainly doesn't love you or have particularly strong feelings for you. As for having 'a problem with dating apps', that's utter bollocks, he's trying to weasel his way out by trying to make out 'he can't help it'. Well done for dumping him, and don't doubt yourself, you are doing the right thing. I would strongly advise you to make sure you are tested for STD's, if you haven't been using condoms. I would take his protests of only 'meeting for drinks', with a pinch of salt, he's probably been having sex with other women for quite some time.

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I'm glad you've ended the relationship. Please disregard the condescending reactions from people who have clearly never experienced a relationship where your confidence in yourself is systematically removed by a person who blames you for everything that they do.

This is not you. It's him. Nobody in their right mind would try to convince you that having a problem with his cheating is controlling unless that person was actually trying to control and emotionally abuse you.

You got no kids either this man and you need an honest person leave before you can these men don't charge and yes it is a big deal

You're worried about being unreasonable and controlling? I'd be more worried that your boyfriend is a cheating scumbag who has been deceiving you and carrying on like he's single. Why did he not become an ex-boyfriend the second you heard what he's been up to?