When they move on quickly

[Donttemptthegods]

Same sex relationship. She ended it because of her mental health and “needing to focus on herself and be alone”.

Within 2 months, seeing someone who they had a fling with before me.

Can someone help me to explain?

I think the explanation is crystal clear, you just need to want to see it. I'm so sorry.

She doesnt want you she wants her. That's all there is to explain really

Harsh replies!!! I’m not sure I agree… I think it’s very plausible she has gone there because it might be an easy option as a distraction op. Turn the other way. Live your life..you don’t need this sort of immature drama!

The relationship wasn't giving them what they needed, so they moved on. It could be a rebound it might not. The best advice I've been given is that person isn't giving you the amount of time you're thinking about them. It's best to keep busy.

Thanks all

OP i think you have had some tough responses. It really hurts when your ex moves on quickly, especially if you still have strong feelings. Often people outgrow the relationship long before they end it. Maybe that's what happened here. Also people can seek comfort in new relationship that dont really mean much or aren't that deep, just distractions. But whatever happened with your ex, its done and now you have to deal with it

Be really REALLY good to yourself until what she does is irrelevant to you.

It’s often the most used excuse. And that’s all it is - an excuse that people know you can’t argue against.

It's usually because the person who ended the relationship is no longer emotionally invested in it and quite often has their eye on who they want to move on to already.

I will admit I moved on quickly from my previous relationship. I had mentally checked out for a long time (ex was emotionally and mentally abusive) and when I finally got the courage to end the relationship (he texted me relentlessly for about 2/3 months after) I had planned on staying single for a while. Turned out I had developed feelings for a friend of mine without realising so a month and a half later I asked him if he wanted to be more than friends which he did. We have since been together for 7 and a half years.