Not coping well with breakup

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Relationship of 3 years. He ended it. It was my fault. I've done everything I can to try to remedy the situation but he has now blocked me on everything.

He was the best partner I've ever had and I feel truly devestated.

Mid 30s now and feel like that was my last shot. I'm broken.

Honestly, it's a shit situation!

Take a step back, if you've been blocked it's because he doesn't want you to remedy the situation.

I know it's easy to say from the outside but try and concentrate on yourself - don't be putting your effort into trying to fix the relationship, put the effort into yourself to try and heal from the end of it!

Highly doubt it's your last shot - you're mid 30s, not dead! 😊 you've got this!

I'm still so in love with him. And I just feel like everyone around me is moving forward with life while mines been blown to smithereens.

Why is it your fault OP?

Emotional infidelity. I'm not proud of it. And understandably he doesn't want to get back together or even have me in his life.

I've realised through therapy I was self-sabotaging (I've had some shit relationships). But I've ruined the best relationship I ever had.

You’ve tried your best so leave it now. Get a shower, put your phone aside and watch a film or have an early night. It really does help to calm down and relax.

The worse thing you can do right now is compare your life to others.

Thank you BabyR. I just feel so alone and like a total f up in this part of my life. I'd love a life partner. Had a bloody good one. And demolished it. I'm so upset with myself. And just feel so so sad.

There are lots of us suffering a broken relationship right now. Not everyone posts about it, but believe me, we’re out there.

The pain you’re currently feeling is shared by many so when you wake up tomorrow morning be comforted by the fact that we’re all enduring a bit of a struggle right now. It’s very painful, depressing and energy sapping.

I’m a fine one to talk but try to believe that you won’t always feel like this. Broken hearts span all age groups, teens to grannies and some great grannies! That’s how it is these days.

It’s really tough, so sending you a virtual handhold and hopes that we’ll all lift our heads to a happier future very soon.

Difference of opinion regarding love.

I don't think you loved him if you started an emotional affair with someone else.

Yeah it's missing what you can't have. If you loved him truly you wouldn't have cheated.

OP, he couldn't have been that great if you started an emotional affair with someone else, especially as you'd only been together 3 years. Examine what was missing from the relationship for you to seek attention elsewhere.