Name changed. Have had some issues in my marriage which i have previously posted about, currently trying to work out what's normal and what isn't. Had a disagreement with H this week, basically about his work and me not getting any rest, always being the one to change my work around him and sort out childcare. He isn't one for discussing things or arguing so walked away. I suddenly felt so down and anxious I had to walk out the house, felt i was having some sort of breakdown, got on two buses then was walking around in the cold and dark for three hours, my reaction went between quietly sobbing and breathing fast, as if having an anxiety attack, i felt pathetic and embarrassed as I'm normally so composed. H messaged me once with a snappy 'where are you?' He was asleep when I got in, then the day after completely ignored me, didn't say goodbye for work or talk to me, gradually over the week i started saying small talk and ten for him it was like we were back to normal. Then as usual, the only affection he showed was today when he grabbed me from behind and said some sort of innuendo while groping me. This is a pattern with him, he only shows affection when it's sexual.
Am I being unreasonable to be hurt by this? He knows I suffer from depression and anxiety, but seems to take everything personally and didn't seem to care about how I was the other night? We rarely argue because he doesn't like confrontation and I want to keep the peace. If I say I'm not happy with something he will often say, 'your being nasty, you don't love me, you want someone else,' so it's very hard to be honest. On the occasion where iv really upset him, iv sobbed and apologised and asked for forgiveness and he has just sat there so coldly, with no attempt to comfort me, and he never apologises. Just says something like 'OK, that's enough'. Is this normal for most men, do they struggle to talk about emotions and feel uncomfortable, and that's why he reacts the way he does? or is it that he just doesn't care?