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Does your dh get you down when they are unwell

17 replies

heatblast · 21/04/2008 09:49

Hi
Just wondering if anybody else feels like me when their dh complains of feeling unwell.

I realise I would never get carer of the year award but honestly he drove me mad yesterday.
He woke up complaining of a headache, chills, and bad throat.
So he stopped in bed all day never left the bed once not even for a drink.
He is always like this when unwell he mopes about the house does not lift a finger.
However when I am unwell I just have to get on with it.
He will just lie in bed saying I need medicine, he will try to lift his head to talk and quickly fall back onto the pillow.
He will also sometimes act in a state of being dilerious and say something like where have you been, when did you get back, when I have not even left the house.
I truly believes he puts that bit on.
He has got up and gone to work this morning so I suppose I can say that much for him.
He got up saying I am weak, sick, etc.
Then he went out the door saying don,t be surprised if I am back early.
He is also doing my head in atm about his bottom.
He has complained for weeks that it is aching but he won,t get himself down the doctors, instead he has been taking a hot water bottle to bed every night.
I realise I probably sound like a selfish bitch but he really does my head in.

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CountessDracula · 21/04/2008 09:53

He sounds pathetic - unless he has a temperature he wouldn't be delerious!

I would go out if I were you and leave him to it

FluffyMummy123 · 21/04/2008 09:54

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Nemoandthefishes · 21/04/2008 09:55

oh good god yes..just ignore him or stick a bowl by his bed and pretend he isnt there!!

contentiouscat · 21/04/2008 09:57

My DH is the same, he takes to his bed if he is ill (or even worse drapes himself over the whole sofa) then talks in an "ill" voice updating me about every 15 minutes on the state of his throat, nose whatever.

I USED to be sympathetic but as I dont get to have "sick" days I just grit my teeth and ignore him now.

rubles · 21/04/2008 09:58

LOL He sounds funny to me but it's probably a different story if you are in the same room as him..
Delirious. I ask you. What are they like?

heatblast · 21/04/2008 10:00

You know he is 43 years of age.
I would expect a much younger person maybe to act like this.
I dread him coming home today I can,t face watching him moping around again.
It honestly really depresses me.
I have seen him like this many times when he has not been well.
I get truly narked that a weekend comes and goes without us having done anything together as a family.

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lisad123 · 21/04/2008 10:02

yep spounds like mine too.
I did explain to dh that if he decided he wanted to be a stay at home dad, he still had to get up to the kids if his sick! He hasnt mentioned it since

WE both had food ponising yesterday, although he wasnt as bad, I was a wreak, and still am, but once kids were in bed, he promotly fell asleep on the sofa, leaving me to finish housework and sort out uniforms

ginnedup · 21/04/2008 10:05

does this look familiar

I so know what you mean about the sick voice - dp just sounds so camp when he does it and I have to struggle not to laugh!!!

heatblast · 21/04/2008 10:08

ginnedup thats really funny.
I will be showing him that.

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squeaver · 21/04/2008 10:09

My dh is exactly the same. But he's not ever going to change. I find ignoring plus liberal quantities of sarcasm help me get through it

rubles · 21/04/2008 10:10

That's hilarious. Am going to send it to dp.

I'm sorry heatblast, I know how annoying it is. When dp says his throat is feeling a bit scratchy my stomach tightens in horror. I can't stand the constant sighing.

Nbg · 21/04/2008 10:14

Let him crack on with it.
Must take more effort to do that than to just get on with things.

He'll soon stop when he realises your not paying him any attention.

DaDaDa · 21/04/2008 10:23

Y'know sometimes... just sometimes... men are actually ill when they say they are ill.

lisad123 · 21/04/2008 11:11

ROFL that is so funny

OrmIrian · 21/04/2008 11:15

Yes. OOohhh yes.

TheFallenMadonna · 21/04/2008 11:22

My DH does the opposite. My DH keeps on going. Because the world will grind to a halt is he doesn't turn up for work/mend the car/whatever.

This irritates me. Men can't win...

DaDaDa · 21/04/2008 11:37

If you're going to play that game...

You moan at us because we're inconsiderate oafs, then moan at us when we're not Gene Bloody Hunt.

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