I’ve had this friend for over 20 years. Until a couple of years ago we lived in different cities and did not see each other a lot, but made sure we were in regular contact via phone calls and text messages.
She has always been quite skinny as she she eats very little. This was apparent when going out and she would hardly eat half of the food off her plate. I am not a big eater myself but it felt such a waste. And I am not one to count the pennies when I go out.
Anyway, getting to more recent times, I got a pet while she was living in the same city as me and checked with her beforehand if she’d help out when I wanted to go away. She gladly said yes as she was a lover of the same species and she had a few herself in the past.
Recently we went away for just over a week and checked with her if she’d be ok to pet sit and she happily said yes. She basically came to my house and worked from home while looking after and spoiling my brat pet. All without a fault.
Before I went away I asked her what she was normally eating so I could do some shopping and leave food for her in the fridge and she stated there was no need, especially that we had a couple of shops near by, a big supermarket 10 min walk away and a smaller convenience store 5 min walk away.
As she said she was mainly eating salads I left some stuff for her in the fridge to have for at least a couple of days and some cooked food.
I also said to her there was no need to bring toiletries as I had plenty of stuff.
On the day of our return, she left the house early in the morning, despite the fact that were not coming back till later on that night. To my surprise, I noticed she had not eaten a single thing I left for her(they were all bought the day she arrived at our place from a shop she liked which was not nearby). She bought later on mainly the same things I bought, but preferred to leave mine in the fridge and go off??? She also bought all toiletries, which I already had, same brand, so it’s not a matter of personal preference. Even toilet paper she bought, despite having big bags of same brand in two different places, one near the pet food so it’s not like she hadn’t noticed it.
She has also bought a couple of pizzas and left them for us. I know the reasoning behind it is so she doesn’t bother us, but this is extreme. She was doing me a favour by looking after my pet and my house, and I showed her everything around, where I was keeping all supplies for everything. As much as I appreciate her help, I am so baffled and feel like I made her feel unwelcome. Would you not find this a bit extreme? I also felt she was a bit off with me as I was calling quite often at first to check on my pet as he was a bit unwell when I left. I then backed off and left her to it. But not once did she ask “Btw, where do you keep the toilet paper?”
it really makes me laugh writing this last line but I hope you get the gist of it. Thanks for reading this far.