I’ll try and keep this brief…
A week ago I split with my boyfriend as I discovered messages on his phone indicating his ex had been in contact with him and had been at his house. This had been a concern for me throughout our relationship and he told me she was blocked and they hadn’t spoken at all, he had lied a number of times.
I confronted him and left his house. He messaged me after with a pitiful excuse, claimed nothing had happened with the two of them, expressed how sorry he was to have hurt me by lying and how much he enjoys being with me. I didn’t reply. This was a week ago.
During this time and space I have recognised that whilst I feel some sadness, I don’t miss being with him. The relationship was pretty much centred around his needs and he would often subtly put me down or behave in ways that would drive up my anxiety. I feel much calmer since not having to deal with him.
A couple of days before this all happened we booked a pre Christmas trip away together. I put it on my credit card and he was going to pay me back on the night we saw each other, but clearly didn’t happen as it all kicked off.
Flights cannot be cancelled and transferring to another date will likely cost little less than the original flight costs.
Trip cost circa £200 each. I’m happy to let this go in order to maintain my peace and not have to speak to him. My Mum feels strongly I should message him a direct message asking for him to send me his half of the trip cost and then not contact him again.
AIBU to want to let this money go, and see it as payment to keep my peace?