I love him but there’s no trust

[Al4356]

Looking for advice really as to how I move forward from trust issues.
long story short my marriage ended, following this I started a new relationship, but it turned out that for the best part of a year he was lying repeatedly to me about his life.
somehow we agreed to make a go of things and to the outsiders perspective we have the best relationship, and there’s nothing that he has done to make me question anything for the last year of us ‘giving it a go’. The problem I have is that I am constantly reminding myself in my head of what happened at the start of our relationship and worry that it could happen again.
do you move forward from this?? I’m worried it will always be on my mind.

Why would you trust a liar?

It’s sad really from a woman’s point of view because your the one who has been betrayed by him and that hurts, but when you follow your heart instead of your head and “go back” you betray yourself because it’s only you who is going to get hurt again, like a double whammy.

You can’t trust him, his a liar, they just get better at lying, they don’t stop. Once a cheat, always a cheat.

Depends what he was lying about for a year as you've been vague. If it includes infidelity to you, no chance. If a person can't be loyal during the honeymoon phase, they aren't going to be once it's worn off. If it's something else, maybe depending on what it is

Depends what he lied about. Some lies may have a reason behind them.

Did he pretend to be a manager in a company when he was an employee because he wanted to sound more impressive to date you?

Or did he say he was out with the lads when he was down the pub chatting to a mixed crowd?

What was the lie so we can work out if it was justified or if you should ltb

Love needs trust - they go together. Otherwise you are just lusting for him and that won't last.

So are you saying you've been together a year and he's been lying the whole time? I'm not judging, i do get it. But if that's the case... How do you think this will end up? You know, don't you...

Ok i re-read your OP, the first year he lied and the second year you've been working on it? Who's doing the work? The real work. You'll never move on if he's the same person. And that's not your fault.

You don't have "trust issues" - you very sensibly don't trust someone who has proven himself untrustworthy and a liar.

You'd be barmy to trust him.