Asking for reassurance

[Sunsparkles]

I'm on holiday with my partner of 2yrs. We don't live together. A week away, just the two of us.
We have had a lovely time, but I've felt the physical intimacy has been less than I would have expected, given experiences of our time together so far. Tonight I asked my partner "you do.still fancy me don't you?" And his reaction was to pull away, exclaim angrily "why would you ask that" and turn away from me. I'm a little shocked, I kinda expected a reassuring cuddle and of course I do....not quite sure what to do with this.

Have you been on holiday together previously @Sunsparkles ?

This may or may not be the case but has he had such a good holiday that he doesn't want to go back home? I get really grumpy on the last full day of my holidays!

Is it a relaxing hol or an adventure type? Could he be tired out/humidity getting to him?

I think we have both been having a lovely time. He does suffer with anxiety so takes a good few days minimum to settle into a new routine/environment. It's just the outburst response that shocked me. I'm asking because I'm not sure if I should be concerned about that as a reaction, or that I just wouldn't have reacted that way.

If it seems out of character I'd put it down to being tired!

Ask "is everything ok?' in a bright and breezy way over lunch. He may open up a bit more if there's something you need to know.

It’s really hard to judge based on what you’ve said. Could it be that you’ve touched on a nerve? I’m not sure how old you are or how often you normally see each other but I wonder if he had performance issues?

Given you’ve had a lovely time and it’s just the physical aspects it doesn’t sound like he’s going off you. If the response is out of character I wouldn’t worry about it unless he starts becoming more aggressive/angry in future.

How often do you ask for reassurance? I had an ex who was constantly asking me for reassurance and it really wound me up.