Just gone nc with remainder of family

[hatethisweather]

It’s a long story so I’ll shorten it. I grew up in a house full of domestic violence, toxicity and narcissistic people. I went nc with df 20 years ago for all the stated reasons.
He died this year and I made contact with some of his family again. They cut me off when I went nc with him but I foolishly thought this might be an opportunity for us to reconnect.
Anyway, they have now shown their true colours again and the snide remarks, lies and general toxic attitude has started again.
This time I’m not taking it anymore, I’ve told them I want nothing more to do with them and I mean it.
I’m just wondering why it hurts so much? Why I feel guilty and why I even care?
They’ve treated me so bad all my life and now I’m feeling guilty for cutting them off for good.
Im stressed beyond belief about this and im tired from it all. It feels like I’ve been abandoned all over again, at the age of 50!

Anyway, I just wanted to vent a bit and maybe wallow! Tomorrow is a new day and hopefully will give me a better perspective on things,

You extended an olive branch, and had it thrown right back at you.

They are clearly deeply unpleasant so if I were you, I would just tell yourself that you don't want obnoxious people like that in your life.

Don't waste your time on them @hatethisweather

I think when we reconnect we expect things to have changed but in most situations it ends up on the same path.

If they subtract rather than add to your life, you are better off making the break again.

You've tried and they have treated you with contempt so just think to yourself "Move on. These aren't my people"