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Pregnant with baby no 2 and feeling lonely

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Yogagirl18 · 19/09/2024 20:24

Second time mom to-be, almost halfway through this pregnancy and finding it so much more lonely this time round. Not sure why I’m really posting, maybe just for a virtual hug?

DH is great and v caring but have had no affection towards me or the baby this time round. He does everything for our DS at the moment as I’m struggling with fatigue and back pain but that seems to completely occupy him. I feel like he has no connection with me or baby.

I had some issues with my mum and sibling recently which spiralled into a big argument. After a really heated discussion and somewhat of an ambush by them at my house today, we eventually resolved things. However he’s been off and funny with me ever since, saying he didn’t like how they just come over. I understand because I also didn’t like it but not sure how it’s my fault? When I ask why he’s being off he claims he isn’t. I’ve got really upset this evening and struggling to articulate why I’m so down to him. He’s on the defensive about how much he does for me and stormed off ranting to himself. He’s not getting the point that I just need a big hug and I don’t really know how to ask for one right now.

I’m just feeling so down and alone even though I’m surrounded by people ☹️

OP posts:
GarrynotsoGorilla · 19/09/2024 21:00

Sending hugs, sounds like you are both exhausted. You probably need to be more deliberate about your communication to each other. Why do you feel you can't just ask for a hug? Going from one to two kids is a big jump, and you are both adjusting be kind to yourselves x

Olika · 19/09/2024 21:34

Perhaps you could just tell him that you know how much he is doing for your family and you appreciate him taking care of your first born while you are feeling so poorly. And that you miss you two being close and you crave for hugs and that closeness you used to have.

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