On Edge: Garda will be arresting my EXH

[JanuaryBug]

I left my abusive ex in April after I had to call the Garda (police) on him one night. Since then I have managed to get a one year safety order in place which means he cannot abuse me and contact is to be kept to talking about the children only.

He has recently been contacting me sending long, rambling, abusive texts. Threatening me and my new partner and threatening to flush one of my pets who I had to leave behind down the toilet.

I put on my big girl pants and reported him the other night; he will be arrested soon. I have blocked him on all social media, WhatsApp and phone and have told him I now wish to only communicate via email regarding the children. He has also messaged them and told them that I am a narcissist and that I don't care about them. He has also told me that it is my fault that he has started to drink again after being sober over five months.

I am on edge waiting for him to be arrested. Can someone please handhold

OP, you sound like zn amzing strong woman and your children are so lucky to have you.
Keep those texts and forward them to ANYONE that questions you.

Emphasise how terrified you are and how deranged he is to the police.
Do not be fobbed off.

You have done the right thing.

Well done! You’re doing the right thing. Report anything he does and get incident numbers for your files. You can use these to show a pattern of behaviour and have him prosecuted. It’s his own fault he’s getting arrested because he knew fine well he was court ordered not to contact you or the children or be abusive. He ignored that and did it anyway. So he gets what he deserves. If your children are old enough they can refuse to see him. I’m not sure what the legal age is in Ireland but in the UK a court will take the child’s wishes into account from age 12.