Myself and ex broke up 4 years ago. I was discarded like a piece of dirt in the end, he said some hurtful things to me, was cold. During the relationship he was often critical and belittling of me, so it took me a long time to get over, with the help of counselling, and I'm happy with my life now. We are both mid 40s.
However, the last couple of weeks, he's been in my thoughts again, wondering how his life's turned out - actually dreamt about him. I think maybe this is as a result of meeting up with a mutual friend recently, although we didn't discuss him. I'm annoyed with myself as I thought this had long passed.
Is this normal and can anyone relate?