Leaving at 5 months pregnant after dp cheated

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I've just found out my boyfriend of 2.5 years cheated on me. I had my suspicions already from an incident last December, but no confirmation until now. I'm 5 months pregnant but we don't live together, and there are other issues in the relationship already, which make it easier to leave. But I'm a bit in shock and just looking for some support and ways to make it easier to stick to nc while pregnant and obviously hurt.

To avoid drip-feeding, I'm quite sure he's a narcissist. There's nothing in the relationship worth holding onto, and I have no desire to try to forgive and forget. I want to make a clean break to have time to get myself into a better mental state before baby arrives, but I can be very weak at times and need to stick to my guns with the nc. He also has a drink problem. I'm sure I'll get asked why I let myself get pregnant by this man, but there is a very personal backstory as to why. I just need to focus on getting myself back now but is that easier said than done while I'm carrying his baby?

Oh OP I’m so sorry. It is easier said that done, but it absolutely can be done. Lean on any support you have, parents/friends, and do whatever you have to do to take care of yourself. Good luck x

@Mrsttcno1 I know this sounds silly, but I'm too embarrassed to tell my friends and family the truth. I feel like I've put up with a lot from him already, and I feel ashamed about this. I've known in my gut for a long time.

Lean on your family and friends, its awful timing, but you can get through this and you do not need him.
Tell him you need space, block him, and consider counselling to help you through the darker days. Spend time getting ready for your new life to begin and focus in on you and your baby - forget him, you have a brand new chapter just waiting for you

It's not you that should be ashamed OP. Don't be embarrassed.
I'm sure your friends and family will help and support you and will want the best for you.

Please don’t be ashamed, there’s not a single one of my friends or family who I wouldn’t support 100% in the same situation. You need support and the people who love you will be happy to give you it x

I’d tell all family and friends exactly what he’s done and who he is. You’re going to need their support and if they only know that ‘it wasn’t working out’ they’ll probably encourage you to work it out.

I’m so sorry OP.

If anything it will be easier breaking up now than 1/2/3years down the line.

The baby days won’t be too bad as you’ll just be able to focus on you and the baby. You’ll be able to co-sleep, go to bed when the baby sleeps, eat what you want, just focus on you and baby.

I would recommend breastfeeding. That way he won’t be able to use baby as a weapon in the first year.

It can be fine, especially if you actively had a reason you wanted to be pregnant at this time and it's very much wanted by you. You don't have to give chapter and verse to people about how much he put you through.
How much strife you get going forwards depends on how interested he is in being a father. If he's more obsessed with himself, that could be handy. Money is also a factor, it's one thing to want to take someone to court for access, but if he can't afford or doesn't want to fork out for legal fees, then that leaves him stuck.
Meantime, the less you are in contact the better. You can fit in a whole 4 months of no contact. Block hom on everything, avoid places he might go, change any routines you have so he can't try and bump into you. You'll get over it all quicker that way.