I've told my husband I wish to separate. He has a mental health condition and a drug addiction problem. It's got significantly worse over the last 6 months enough is enough I've tried to help him over the years but he won't help himself and I've realised nothing will improve and he has no intention of quitting drugs. Myself and my daughter have had enough, she is old enough now to have an idea of what's going on, I naively hoped he would of sorted himself out by now. I've stopped attending his MH appointments with him now as he isn't honest with them and I don't really see hoe they help as he doesn't engage with them at appointments. He has told the Dr I am financially abusing him as I manage all the money and he has to ask for any money. He never had an issue with this before as I pay all the bills etc and we had an agreement of how much he can spend on his drugs, I don't feel proud to say that but it was a kind of compromise. He has gotten more demanding as his addiction has spiralled and I've tried to put my foot down and tell him no when he is unreasonable. I feel he is trying to make out I am the bad guy in all this, when in fact he is a manipulative and emotionally controlling bully. What I am asking is has anyone had a similar experience? Will social services see the true situation here? The lady who phoned me was very compassionate and seems to be on my side with it all so to speak and she also mentioned a statement my daughter had given the other week to police when I had to call them as my husband was trying to make us leave the house and said he didn't trust himself, in which I my daughter said she often goes without treats because of his spending habits. I feel he is doing this in retaliation as I want to separate as he doesn't want to, but he also doesn't want to change either.