My husband is a serial liar

[zaraenes]

How do I have a conversation with my husband who is a serial liar.

We've been married 2.5 years. Last year I caught him talking to a girl on the phone, was arranging a meet up. Confronted him and he admitted it at the time and said sorry will not happen again.

I caught him again 2 months ago talking to another girl. Then I checked his Snapchat and saw he was talking to 10 to 15 girls! I was shocked but had a gut feeling.

He denies anything I ever say, he says it's all innocent chat but I'm sorry.. asking girls for pictures is not on. He's even sent money to some of them.

He said he's just made 1 mistake (the girl he got caught talking to 2 months ago), and he says it wasn't even a big mistake. He also now denies doing the first thing 1 year ago or talking to other girls when I have clear EVIDENCE. He constantly says I'm doing this on purpose and I want to end the relationship - I REALLY DONT. He just plain lies about everything, not just this. He'll lie about his family situations and I find out the truth from outsiders, when I confront him he'll just say they don't know the truth when I know the actual truth.

We had a baby 4 months ago and I thought he'd have matured but nope. I chucked him out 2 months ago but he wants to reconcile but I know deep down he's still talking to girls. I don't understand the point of it, he seems to just be doing it for fun and not something serious.

A part of me wants him back because I don't want my poor baby to grow up without a dad but I also don't want him back and constantly thinking who's he talking to (or even meeting)because I do think he has a problem and is just addicted to talking to other girls.

Any advice ?!

snapchat?? how old are you guys?

Well his mother lives abroad so I don't speak to her but she's always been good to me. Also I don't think he's told her that he's been kicked out. I don't see the point of discussing with his mother as she'll play down what he's done because she will believe his lies so it's useless speaking to her I think.

I'm 28 I don't use Snapchat, he's 26 but thrives off all social media - snap, TikTok the lot..

What would your advice be to your daughter if she came home and said a man was treating her the same way he is treating you?
You'd say your daughter doesnt deserve it and neither do you

It will be much better for your daughter if you got rid of him now, otherwise it's essentially drawing out the process as he won't change and will cause more damage over time.

To repeat, you deserve better than this man is giving you and you shouldn't settle for it

Hey tough love here. You need to ask yourself why you have put up with so much and even why you went on to have a baby with him?? You have to understand you have been existing on hope and 'words'. From a very experienced old bird here: Judge someone by what they DO, not what they say. Ignore any spoken words - all of them, stop talking, screaming, fighting, getting him to 'fess up'. Once you have the evidence based on actions you have observed/experienced make a grown up decision that puts pride and your self-respect first and foremost. This man does NOT love you or your baby - he does not know what love is and you should ask yourself if you do too? because how can this mess be love? Where did you learn this pattern? You need to do more than leave this drip, you need to not take up with another drip and for that you need to understand your part in this mess. You chose him. Un-choose him and choose better.