Hi I'm losing the will to carry on my partner well in my eyes ex partner is digging his heels in taking his time to leave and making everything I say a pity statement or how I'm going to make it hard for him with the kids.
Our relationship went from zero to full on very quickly at the time I was half way through a bitter divorce and he appeared almost like a saviour. That was almost 5 years ago.
In this time we have had two boys
One is 3 and the other is 2.
Now relationship wise I should have ended it after my first son was born.
All was well or so I thought for first 18 months or so couple of things was odd his behaviour at times was odd, working extra hours no extra cash, well this turned out to be a 4 month affair. But when I found out I had a 6 week old affair had been done a few months by then plus I was in process of being evicted due to landlord passing away. So I decided to get over it so to speak.
Now things he has done
4 month affair - kissed another woman - gambling problem apparently but lived off me paying for nothing food rent gas electric rent - when we moved managed to secure a HA flat I was pregnant and he chose to take his mate to work rather than help decorate carpets or even move I was carrying furniture 4 months pregnant - again lived off me for 10 months - wouldn't help buy anything for either babies- couldn't be arsed to build my furniture properly built his own fine mine is now falling apart- I got a car for him on HP he did pay for this but failed to tell me he never had a driving license I found out when he handed the car back 6 months ago and Direct line wrote to me with my no claims bonus i have my own car so i callrd and they informed me the car I was apprantly a named driver I was the policy holder - plus lots of other niggly bits.
I don't know why but the driving licence was the last straw maybe as he was drinking the boys with no licence using my name.
I have asked him to leave and it's over I've had tears and tantrums I can change.
I have said to him I have never met someone who can change so much but never does.
But I'm done, I held out hoping wishing things would change I have a failed marriage and now this relationship I just wanted my boys to have a family so very much but it's not going to happen.
He has agreed to go but on his terms wants to stay until end of January so can save enough to get a place, but life now is so very hard I'm at my wits end.
Like just before writing this.
I've come home from work picked up boys from childcare sorted clothes for tomorrow, sorted dinner, washed up got bags ready bathed the boys, pjs boys tidied toys, had a shower whilst in the shower I left a soaking baking tray and some bedtime cups for boys on the side. And his just sat on sofa doing nothing when I've bought it up again I've not managed to watch TV in my own home in the evening and his done nothing. His answer ' this is how I know your going to make things difficult for the boys when we live separately' how can someone make the equation from having a word about doing nothing.
I can't live like I am his making my life hell, I can't kick him out his on tenancy and he has agreed to go in writing by 31st January.
I am sorry for lengthy post but I'm struggling so very much and don't know what else to do.