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Moving in with ex

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Unknown63 · 16/09/2024 21:23

I recently (2m ago) split with my boyfriend of two years.
we are already locked into a tenancy for our final year of uni and I haven’t found anyone to take over my tenancy.
i am so anxious about moving back in next week and wondered if anyone has any tips for navigating the situation. It didn’t end amicably and honestly the whole situation is scary.
I’m not sure if I ask a friend to move me in since I don’t know if he will be there when I arrive.
I don’t know if I go the route of not talking much to him.
I don’t know really what to do at all!
any advice on navigating this situation would be appreciated- I’m so excited to go back to uni but honestly worried for moving in with him

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TheseBootsAreWalking · 16/09/2024 21:29

are you saying you do not feel safe with him living under the same roof?

If there was abuse, of any sort, then the landlord should be able to cancel the joint tenancy.

Have you spoken to the landlord?

Unknown63 · 16/09/2024 21:42

It’s a really difficult question to answer. I do have a case open with the university who say I do have a police case should I want to take that route but I honestly don’t want any problems or any drama.the uni have left the case open for me and are doing welfare checks on me also.
its tricky because I don’t think he would hurt me sober but he has had instances in the past that would make you second guess your safety if he was under the influence.
unfortunately there seems to be nothing my lettings agent or landlord can do legally, coming from the landlord themselves and my university who looked into it for me.
my only real option (aside from a replacement tenant) would be a restraining order but my agreement may mean I am responsible for his share of the rent. Honestly it seems the law is really messed up!

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DillyDilly · 16/09/2024 21:44

Are there others in the house or just yourself and your ex ?

Unknown63 · 16/09/2024 22:00

Im just there by myself

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