Hi, advice needed please or maybe just my head wobbled!
Met a guy online a few weeks ago, about 5 weeks I think, a couple of days of nice chat, I liked his pictures so we met for a coffee which I instigated (I don’t believe in chatting for ages, would prefer to see if there’s a real life connection rather than waste time with endless messaging). Really liked him when we met, we both messaged after to say the same, lots of lovely things said but not in a love bombing way, I don’t think!)
At this stage he had said he was super busy, running two businesses, keeps fit, lots of energy etc. I am also pretty busy and not looking for loads of time commitment so this didn’t ring any alarm bells. We went on a perfect second date about a week later, was really lovely and the attraction for me was definitely there. Again, lots of nice and validating messages following this. After that it was quite hard arranging another date, lots of ‘tentative’ things mentioned by him, I told him when I was free and he said a few times he would ‘see what he could make work’ for specific times but then nothing would come of it. I started to get a tiny bit narked with this but didn’t make too much of it as I was mindful of how busy he is. We did lots of text and sex chat in between, instigated by us both, I was good with all this and it was definitely two way. Continued to feel a little like was there ever going to be time for real life stuff but also still continued to find him really attractive so was telling myself time will tell. Finally arranged 3rd date for a week ago, we had a lovely dinner and went back to his and slept together, again I was a very willing participant in this, it felt very much like a two way thing, we had talked about this happening and pretty much agreed that it would happen ahead of the date so don’t think it could be seen as a mistake, defo not by me anyway. And it went well, maybe both a bit nervous but nothing disasterous happened, it was good sex and we both communicated we felt like this after. The few days after I got lots of lovely messages, couldn’t wait to see me again, had been thinking lots about our time together etc. But again being a bit slippery about another arrangement, saying he had a mega busy next couple of weeks but then things workwise were due to quieten a bit. Last Friday I sent a hi message, got a reply straight away saying he couldn’t wait to see me again and I decided to reply asking what free time he had over the weekend seeings as I had a bit of free time myself. I haven’t had a reply since! I don’t understand, he read the message and has just ignored! I have sent another message this morning (3 days after the last) just asking what the deal is, it’s not been read yet (few hours ago). I need opinions on what’s happening here?! Is he already in a relationship and has just been looking for some extra attention (said he had been single for a year and a bit but prev in a 15 yr relationship). Is he just a really busy guy who is flaky. Is it acceptable on any level that I asked for some time together and the message has just been ignored? Am I being a complete walkover and need to just delete and move on or would this not be a sackable offence, especially given that there has been lots of lovely stuff?! I feel like as I really quite like him i can’t see things straight, honest opinions very welcome…thank you muchly ladies….🙏🏻xx