i have posted about my relationship before. In summary both mid 40s and been dating 2.5 years. I moved into his after a year dating for 8 months. till my houses was built. That time I felt isolated and ignored by him. He spent lots of time at the pub and sex stopped. We broke up for 5 weeks day 2 of me moving out.
in that time he got diagnosed with depression which explained his behaviour. He asked to try again and we discussed what we needed in the relationship and how we can repair. We also talked about the future and what we wanted. We were on the same page so decided to try again slowly.
it was going fine. I was struggling with only seeing each other 2 times a week and he wasn’t great at communication between dates. he also didn’t want to do much out of the house. I spoke to him about it and it improved. he had made quite a bit of health and life style changes and the guy I fell in love with is back. So why am I confused.
he stays at mine for 4/5 days. I don’t go to his due to the commute as both our works are very close to mine. He also says that my village is much nicer than his with more going on and I am only a short taxi into the city. He is affectionate and wants to do things. Frequent Sex has returned. He calls me everyday and is making a massive effort and is open with communication. I did ask what changed and he said he reflected and realised relationships take consistent effort and he wasn’t making me his priority and didn’t want to lose me again. So is now making sure I am his priority and that isn’t going to change.
why am I confused with getting the attentive boyfriend back. I feel content and happy. But I am now worried about consistency and sustainability. Why can’t I be happy.