Is my marriage over?

[Alleycatt]

I’m trying to work out if what I’m experiencing is normal or if my marriage is in a mess.

we are both mid 40’s and have been together 21 years, married with 1 teen.

we both work hard and come home knackered. We don’t seem to communicate in the same way that we used to. Sex is very rare. We don’t argue, or act as thought we dislike each other- we’re just kind of living together as housemates!!

does anyone else feel this way??

Yes, and it’s time to end it. We’re just house mates too, and I’m fed up of cleaning up after him.

Try not to project your own marriage onto another person who may not be living under the same circumstances.

OP, depending on the situation it can be salvageable. Counselling will be the obvious option. Are you both open to it?

The OP clearly asked for people’s experiences

Depends if your 'it's time to end it' if in reference to you ending your marriage or encouraging OP to end her marriage.

Do you ever get time just the two of you away from home, work and your teen? If so; what is that time like? Do you enjoy it and reconnect? If not, why? What's the dynamic?

If you're not getting any of this time for the first time to do is to mark out at least one evening every couple of months where you do something together.

How are things with your teen? Any school issues causing additional stress?

How are things with your respective jobs? Financially are you ok? Are you both fulfilled at work?

Do you still get on? Is he a good partner? Can you laugh together? Sometimes it’s hard when you are busy and tired. But what is there underneath it?