Dating again after 7 years….

[Lifesforloving1]

Hi everyone,

i have been in a long term relationship for the past 8 years…. In the end it became very toxic with lots of shouting ect… without going into it, I felt like I checked out the relationship long before it ended. I’m honestly relieved to be out of it.

im happy as I am at the moment with a bit of freedom, but how long would you all wait before dating again ?

As soon as possible.

@poppyzbrite4 really ?

Of course. Don't you want sex, dates, fun?

When you feel ready.

Depends on what you want as well, do you want some male company, trip to the cinema, afternoons in a coffee shop etc or something more permanent?

When I ended my 10 year relationship it honestly took me a very long time to get over it, I think about 4 years. It does sound like you are mentally a lot further a long than I was.

Wheres the harm with a few dates? I'd just be careful for a little bit to make sure you're definitely over it, I just wouldn't get too serious too quickly.

It’s such an individual thing that no one else can really tell you. From experience it takes longer than you think to really have your head in the right place to date again.

I met someone a year after my marriage broke up and looking back now I wasn’t ready at all and I wouldn’t have gone near him if I’d been in a better headspace.

I would say don’t rush into anything just for sake of it. Take time out to work out what you really want and even more important, don’t want