Does he still fancy me?

[sarah7681]

My partners away on a holiday with friends. I sent him a pic. No explicit just an underwear one and he said “nice” is this a compliment 😂 we’ve been together 10 years 🙃 am I thinking to much into it.

Do you have a good sex life, if so it’s safe to say he fancies you and his message was just a bit monosyllabic

Are you a willing sexual partner or do you turn him down? If so he might not really be bothered seeing you in you in your underwear when there only half a chance there will be a follow up.

only you know the answer and it should really be obvious

No we really don’t have much of a sex life! We have two young daughters so we don’t really get the time I’ve said about date nights once a week etc and it doesn’t really happen. He did gwr diagnosed with cancer 2 years ago but been in remission for a year all though it’s not curable it’s at bay! Maybe this is reflecting on it I don’t know!

There’s always time for sex as presuming you share a bed, the children will not be with you 24/7? Whose choice has it mainly been not to have sex, or do neither of you try much anymore?

Haha do you have kids??

lol no there isn’t if you have kids and one is up 3 times a night the time you get to bed it’s time to sleep 🙃

Desperate? Haha how is that desperate??? Sending your partner a photo isn’t desperate lol I defo know my value 😉

Yes

It’s to her partner…

There’s always time for a quickie somewhere in a 24hr period, even if it’s not the long drawn out sessions you may have had pre kids

He’s not in a strip club he’s in Holiday he FaceTimes me everyday and our kids 😉 yes I questioned nice I didn’t question if he was cheating In a stripclub. Idiot.

But there must be some level of insecurity there for you to be sending him photos whilst he's on holiday and then questioning his reaction(even if not to him).

I'd focus on getting your sex life back on track when he's back.

I'd be a bit wtf if I didn't have a sex life with my DP, but the moment I'm enjoying myself with my mates, he's sending me photos of him in his underwear tbh.

This is the trouble with text , you have the word , but not the feeling or the tone used

I agree, there’s a difference between having a hot and heavy sex life and missing that while your partner is away- sending them a pic of what they are missing, and just randomly sending it when he’s on holiday with his friends when you don’t really have a sex life. I imagine if you did have a sex life he would have replied with something sexy, to the effect of he can’t wait to get his hands on you when he gets home, but with no guarantee of that, it’s become a bit awkward. Did you respond when he said “nice”, because to me a picture should be the start of some heavy flirting on both sides with the expectations of sealing the deal when he gets back. Why did you send him the pic?

I imagine you intend to follow through, otherwise it’s like sending him a pic of a rib eye steak when he knows he’s not going to be having it for dinner, in which case “nice” would be an appropriate response, rather than “that’s delicious, I can’t wait to eat it”

If not, did you just send it because you are insecure he’s away, and have you ever sent anything before- as likely he’s thinking you’re just insecure while he’s away?

I see, well in that case sure- I hadn’t twigged that someone would send this for any reason but because they were thinking sexually of their partner and wanted to give them a taste of what they’re coming home to. OP look at your real intentions with this, you don’t have to share those here if you don’t want to, but unless you want a fresh start and sex life with him when he gets home, there’s no point to the pics as it’s just teasing. People do make time for sex when it’s important to them as a couple, whatever other external factors there are. I just want to know how the conversation went after he said “nice”

It is a bit off kilter insisting there's absolutely no time for sex ever then sending him a sexy pic when he's on holiday. I'm not sure how we would have responded otherwise when you're too busy to have sex with him/with each other?🤔 what's the point?

Did PP’s miss the bit where OP mentions in passing that DP has incurable cancer? 😵‍💫

It’s incurable but it’s in remission just now if that makes sense :) we know it’s alwyas going to come back but we don’t know when so it is hard but we try and make the most of it ans I think maybe the anticancer drugs he’s on does make him tired so I feel a bit bad posting this 🙃

I don't think it's desperate to send a partner of 10 years an underwear photo!

But I agree with the above poster and I am curious about your motivation for sending it.

Maybe he wasn't alone when he opened the message and typed a quick response in case one of his friends saw it?

Hey it’s better than a thumbs-up emoji