Hi, I’m a 47 year woman. Have 2 kids and was with my husband for 27 years until he decided he didn’t know what he wanted. I’ve met someone else now. It started great. Lots of compliments and he was kind and funny. He had lots of issues but it was ok because he was always nice. As time has gone on it just feels like the effort is all made by me. I tend to pay for most things and generally it’s me driving to his house. He has 3 boys and told me today that his youngest wants him and his mum to get back together. He never thinks about what he says and the fact it hurts. I saw a message as he was messaging his lad saying he still loved his ex. He says he loves me but never remembers my birthday or takes me on dates or shows it any other way. We’ve been seeing each other about 2 years and he’s only been to my house once off his own back. He’s just had an op and I let him stay with me but there was snarky comments made about me and my appearance. He said he would give me some money towards petrol and shopping but says he hasn’t any right now. He texts lots of checks I’m ok this way but when I go and see him it feels like I’m just doing jobs for him. I want everything to be ok but am I just kidding myself. I feel like I need a reality check. Any advice please