Arguments

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How do you move on from arguments?
I was in the wrong, in that I have behaved in way that's upset my dh because of my reaction to something someone else has done. I didn't want to cause an argument so withdrew into myself all week, became more and more quiet, not sleeping and then the inevitable happened and it totally blew up. We have a different view on what happened and how it's been perceived and it's triggered some dreadful anxiety and dark thoughts for me. I have been very withdrawn and my dh says passive aggressive which I could agree too.

Lots of cross words and just horrible. I've apologised. He's accepted my apology.
I am now totally deflated and sad and want to rewind two weeks. How's do people make up and move on?
I'm not sure he'll think of me the same again and I'm sad about that because of the trigger someone else caused and my reaction to it

I think it would be worth you seeking therapy OP.

all sounds like an exhausting and horrible home life

any children?

so he’s had a fortnight of you being very quiet and withdrawn?

It is exhausting.
I've been withdrawing since about Monday. Yesterday being the worst hence the argument.
My anxiety and self absorbed thoughts have been so awful for me but obviously for my dh too. I absolutely hate arguing and was trying to avoid it but made it worse

I want to rewind two weeks because that's when the trigger was, not that I've been withdrawn for two weeks is built up this week

Adult children. Home life is usually so good, we've a lovely marriage but this week I've struggled with someone else's behaviour that caused a huge anxiety response in me, recognised that and apologised.

It’s not fair for you to withdraw from your husband like this, you need therapy to help you address and cope with those feelings.

Try and engage with your husband, you will feel better. Also say to him that you are sorry, take him by the hands / look him in the eye.
Do something you think he will appreciate, you will feel better for it. Sometimes we all have moments that tip us over the edge. You can’t go back to the past but you can control future behavior.

If this is uncharacteristic behaviour, surely he'll understand that? Whatever it was that upset you so much would be taken into consideration by him and he'll think no more of it?

You are carrying all the weight here, what did he do to repair things between you during two weeks.

She does say that she apologised and he accepted that. Sounds as if is simply anxiety on her part. She needs to find a way to put it behind her or risk it becoming an issue again.