My husband had an 'emotional affair' in July, since then we have been up and down with him vowing to end all contact (he has) and make more effort in our relationship. Previously in the relationship I was asking him to spend more time with me and at least come to bed with me once a week ( I felt like I wasn't asking alot).
Since then Im aware I'm more sensitive about issues of my self confidence ( working on) and this has sparked arguments with us. The biggest problem is that he doesn't make time to discuss or chat with me to air the issues. He always says he is busy at work and doesn't have time. When he gets home and more recently has said he doesn't like seeing me upset.
The most recent discussion was upset and he said he needed a drink so left the room, he was gone for some time and he was in the kitchen on his phone to his work mates. Which upset me more that he chose to leave sorting things out and check his phone, I wouldn't do this to him.
Now we are at a stalemate, he asked me last night when can we chat ( I'm here most of the time) and I said whenever he can fit me in, apparently this wasn't a good response.
I'm at an end, two ways I'm overreacting or I feel I deserve better. I want to be with someone who comforts me when I'm upset or I don't have to beg to be with, spend time or think of me.
We have been together since we were 15/16 and now in 40s so we've been through alot.
It's just feels so hard right now