Hi all, I’ve been with my partner for a couple of years. He lives with me in my parents’ house.
So basically, everything will seem fine for let’s say a couple of weeks, then all of a sudden (in my eyes) he’ll feel down, depressed, fed up with me, shout at me (this bit only happens very occasionally and he will apologise afterwards and say “it’s just my stress coming out I can’t control it lately”), he’ll sometimes say things like I’m “unbareable” to be around.
Tonight, I explained that I’m nervous to go to his family home tomorrow to stay (they live 2 hours away) as I feel quite vulnerable with how we have been lately and we sort of had a conversation about how he’s been feeling lately. I ended up asking him if I’m enough for him and he said “just be enough for yourself” I asked him to clarify further what he meant by that and he said he hopes I can give him more and that my best is better than what I’ve been giving.
I feel as though I have been doing my best but i have sought private counselling to see if I can further improve my best for him but I feel like my self esteem has taken a toll from this. Perhaps me having mental health issues is the reason that all this is happening.
Advice on where to go from here?
TIA