What do I need to do, practically speaking, if I was to leave the relationship?
Background: Been together 10 years. We own a home together (tenants in common). Originally I'm from London but currently living in Midlands. We have no family nearby apart from his parents an hour away. Two children (3 yrs and 10 months) both with his surname, not that I'm upset about that but wondering how that would affect anything. I'm 34. He is mostly emotionally abusive, and can't handle me having any issues with him otherwise he punishes me or goes into a rage, and the other day he was particularly aggressive after I confronted him about something he's done to disrespect me, and he exploded and even poked me in the chest while shouting in my face. I am afraid of him. I told him this and said I want to leave. I have stopped talking to him, besides fundamental childcare stuff and the likes. Next month he is taking me away and proposing to me (ridiculous, I know). He is currently in the grovelling stage, buying me sorry gifts, and leaving me sorry notes, saying he knows he's got something wrong with him, his words were "has no patience" which I think is a mild summary. He knows he has done wrong but it's the same old cycle i'm not stupid. He has said he is prepared to do anything to not lose me. However, my kids have just started preschool/nursery. We both have ft jobs but wfh. He's been sleeping in the spare room but I don't think it will be long until he runs out of steam and demands I talk to him and I'm drained. I know what I should do. But how do I actually do it/where do I start? Thanks for reading.