I read about DARVO at the weekend, didn't really know what it was and it was like reading about DP.
I've purchased the online Freedom Programme and he is absolutely a bully and a liar, and I didn't know and I couldn't see it.
Now I can't un-see it.
All those conversations that went round in circles as he derailed them with fiction - I'd try to raise an issue and he'd rebut with 'but you do...' or 'only because you did...' and I'd end up having to argue with a fictional point, meaning the things I actually try to raise and discuss properly just get left behind.
And he shouts and he's aggressive, and he says it's my fault. I make him angry because I can't just let things go. I don't want to row but also tire of biting my tongue and just want to be heard and understood. How can he not understand what he is doing?
I don't think he has always been like this.
We live together, renting, I have nothing and bad credit, I feel trapped.
I have two teens and he has a younger DC.