hi just re-posting here as I think I posted in the wrong place before.
I am looking for some helpful kind advice. I have become so desperately unhappy in my marriage. I am the main bread winner and pay for almost all of our outgoings on a small wage, we have 2 young DC who I also do everything for including the cooking, cleaning, bathing, putting to bed, getting up and ready for school, life admin and paperwork, shopping. DH does nothing in the house at all or outside (garden wise/mowing/general upkeep and maintenance of the home). His social life is extremely full and he is somewhere almost every evening whilst I am left at home trapped 😓 not to mention the ‘sexting’ another woman whilst I was pregnant. I dream of leaving him but could not bear to be without my DC, even more so I could not bear the fact that if we did split, he would not take care of them he would take them and they would be with his mother and sister. I have always tried to get on with his sister but she is an awful awful person who has physically assaulted DH in the past. I have been keeping ALOT of distance since then and really would not want her spending any time alone with my DC (if we were to split i know DH would just move straight back to live with his mother, father and horrid sister who still lives with them.) I guess what I am trying to ask is how can i keep my DC safe away from awful SIL if we were to split. I feel so trapped.