Separate?

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For a while now I've been considering leaving my husband. Every time I get close to having the conversation, I worry about the impact on the kids.

Part of me also worries, is it just having young kids & busy job, plus shift work! Do we need to work through this?

There's a couple of issues.

We are rarely affectionate & more often than not he'll fall asleep on the sofa & not come to be until the middle of the night.

I have to make the effort to plan everything & if I ask him to look at for eg. A day out of holiday, it will take several attempts. To the point I've give up.

I also wonder if we're still in love, are we just plodding along

I've tried to discuss this in the past, he always just blames work & says he's tired. Nothing is done to change this though.

Any advice would be appreciated

Give fair warning, he is expecting it to plod on as is, so not giving it headspace. Tell him you are thinking it might be best to agree to split up. That should jolt him, and his reaction to that could be telling.
It sounds like you have become very distant and will most likely need outside help if going to work through it, so a condition of staying and working at it, should be agreeing to couples counselling. If he prefers to throw in the towel, you have your answer and will know you at least tried before moving on.