I have currently been signed of sick for about 8weeks. I started therapy to deal with the issues relating to my first marriage - DV. Whilst in therapy it came to light via flash backs and dreams I was dealing with more than just the DV abuse, childhood sexual abuse by a grandparent. This along with the awful guilt I carry from exposing unknowingly my 2 children from first marriage resulting in them both having CPTSD.
Current husband has not been supportive. I would go as far as to say I’m being emotionally neglected.
I believe him to have narcissistic personality disorder - which he would agree to - childhood trauma related. Very emotionally shut down. More so recently following a breakdown of his mental health. Previously very attentive and loving.
I have not shared what I have been dealing with in therapy nor has be asked if I want to share, talk or confide in him.
in the last 2 weeks he is having episodes of frustration due to different things that end up in him raising his voice to me telling me I need to go back to work. I can not go back to work at present - I feel unable to make a good decisions under pressure, formulate a plan or stay on task. I have recently been diagnosed with ASD and ADHD. Therapist believes this is to ADHD burn out/ shutdown. I work a job that means I make decisions that are life or death. The routine of work would help me but that would be selfish as I know I’m not functioning well right now.
we’ve been together 10years, married 7, 1 child together and 3 in total. He was great for 8 years but not so much recently. Is it time to go?