Just for context, I have a small issue with understanding if things are "normal" or not. I think I am ND, although undiagnosed. I've been in a toxic LTR for such a long time, I can't determine if this is ok or not. I feel like I've been gaslit forever so I cannot trust my own judgement.
I was at a formal work function with DH. Think evening dress and heels. There were marquees set up outside with alcoholic drinks and round tables. Food and non alcoholic drinks were set up inside the house, with about 12 steep stairs leading to the house.
I asked my DH to get me a non alcoholic drink from inside, stating I was wearing ridiculous heels and was worried I'd trip over the stairs! He then puts on this 10 minute performance, in front of the other wives I was sitting with, about how lazy I am & how I should be able to get my own drink etc etc. Eventually, he agrees to get me a drink, but not before making it abundantly clear what a giant favor he was doing for me and how I should be grateful what a good guy he is.
Looking at the faces of these wives, they looked on in horror. All of whom said their husbands would automatically get them a drink, without being asked. So I was really embarrassed that A/ my DH made me out to be this lazy wife (I'm not) and B/ he acted like a dick in front of others.
Thoughts?