Time to start looking

[Tryingtoenjoylife]

I”am 64 and have three children ages 25-21-and 11 my wife and I are still married living in the same house we have not shared a bed in ten years /we have stayed married for financial reasons and for our children,my wife pretty much gave up on our relationship over ten years ago,is there any hope that I could have a relationship with women? Or is my situation too complicated

Why would any woman want to have a relationship with a 64 year old married man with an 11 year old child?

Omg hahaha

So if I was divorced that would give me hope?

You need to talk to your wife and suggest opening your marriage. It's cowardly to just go off and have the affairs, though in practice it would likely not hurt anyone. give you and your wife the grace to grow emotionally by working through how it feels to explore a different marriage. It's perfectly fine to find other relationships, people who might want intimacy with you and not want to live with you etc. Ignore those saying who wants a 64 year old with an 11 year old... well another 64 year old in the same position as you might well!

No, there is no hope

Probable… but find a woman of similar age.

Good luck

I have had no affairs / I do know my wife has more than one,she has told me I should find a girlfriend,iam still working I make over six figures,I have been told I look 8-10 years younger than my age,as of now I work and attend my sons sporting events,I also ,golf,swim,bicycle,just would like to rub shoulders is that so bad?

@Tryingtoenjoylife how will you find the time for an affair??? You seem to be rather busy......

Then fine she has said it's OK- ask her to come to some couples therapy and understand each other better, choose a sex positive therapist, then hit the websites!

"She's told me to find a girlfriend "

So why are you asking strangers?

Just copy/paste your post into one of the dating apps - and then you'll join 100s of other men with the exact same intro - although if you add "wife approved" you might get a tad further with women also looking for something casual.

Sounds like you are fishing on here for someone to take you on! So you look 10 years younger and make 6 figures, eh? What a catch you sound! I bet Mumsnetters will be queuing round the block in no time!

Hahahahaha.

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The constant suggestions on Mumsnet to “open the marriage” is becoming a joke. Most people aren’t polygamous, it’s a trend among teenagers, he’s 64. Leave your wife if the marriage is over and eventually you’ll meet someone new.

You might find someone that genuinely loves you but please be prepared to attract women who are interested in a more transactional relationship. As long as your ego can deal with that and you are willing to spend some money on her you can defo get a younger 'girlfriend' to have fun with. If your wife doesn't mind then go for it.

You have the green light from her, so crack on. However, it might be better to try new sports, as the ones you currently do are quite solitary so you're not likely to meet via those.
If you wear a wedding ring, take it off. Its probably easier in your situation to have a relationship with 'women' rather than a woman if you prefer that. As a man of means, there will always be someone willing to be wined and dined. You can be someone else's sugar daddy.

What about this situation is meant to appeal to a woman looking to date? Why don’t you just get a divorce and look after your 11 year old 50/50. You can date in your free time, but it’s not fair to bring someone else into this mess.

Hmm and female strangers at that? It’s a mystery

"Just want to rub shoulders "

What does this mean?