Would you date a man who.....

nestingok · 2024-09-08T18:00:23+00:00

Had a baby on the way and had split up with the woman? Asking for a friend she seems to think it's fine... I feel very off by it. Not right in my eyes

Sapphire387 · 08/09/2024 19:01

No. Grim.

sammylady37 · 08/09/2024 19:02

No. Too complicated.

Aquamarine1029 · 08/09/2024 19:02

Fucking hell. Not a chance.

Clumsy12345 · 08/09/2024 19:03

Nope

Clumsy12345 · 08/09/2024 19:03

Though if your friend is happy to date someone in that situation then it’s her business

Thursdaygirl · 08/09/2024 19:04

No, who needs all those complications

banality101 · 08/09/2024 19:04

Absolutely not

Catlord · 08/09/2024 19:05

Well it's her business but I wouldn't personally. Too complex.

LauderSyme · 08/09/2024 19:05

If she wants to date a (probably) emotionally immature flake with baggage, yes sure go for it. If she wants a relationship with legs, no.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 08/09/2024 19:05

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DeCaray · 08/09/2024 19:07

No. Absolutely not.

If he's any kind of a man he is going to spend all of his free time helping the mother of his child but I expect that won't be the case.

Tell your friend to remove herself from this mess asap.

Mintypig · 08/09/2024 19:07

No way.

NetflixAndKill · 08/09/2024 19:08

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MeAgainAndAgain · 08/09/2024 19:11

Too soon. He should be concentrating on the baby until everyone involved is into a rhythm surely?

Shortandsweet24 · 08/09/2024 19:11

Not sure why anyone would do that.

KreedKafer · 08/09/2024 19:53

Depends on the circumstances. My brother’s ex-wife left him (effectively making him homeless) while she was pregnant with their fourth child. She was abusive throughout their relationship and openly admitted that she only stayed with him because she wanted a fourth baby and had always intended to throw him out once that was achieved. He only endured her abuse for as long as he did because he didn’t want to be apart from his children, and he would never have left her while she was pregnant. It was her choice.

However - I would add the caveat that my brother would not even have considered looking for a new relationship in the immediate aftermath of that shitshow. He was entirely focused on his children and making sure that things were as stable and calm as possible for them and that he could see them as much as possible, including the youngest when she was born. Dating was the last thing on his mind. To my knowledge he didn’t date anyone until his youngest child was eight or nine, and even then not especially seriously.

Clumsy12345 · 08/09/2024 20:06

KreedKafer · 08/09/2024 19:53

Depends on the circumstances. My brother’s ex-wife left him (effectively making him homeless) while she was pregnant with their fourth child. She was abusive throughout their relationship and openly admitted that she only stayed with him because she wanted a fourth baby and had always intended to throw him out once that was achieved. He only endured her abuse for as long as he did because he didn’t want to be apart from his children, and he would never have left her while she was pregnant. It was her choice.

However - I would add the caveat that my brother would not even have considered looking for a new relationship in the immediate aftermath of that shitshow. He was entirely focused on his children and making sure that things were as stable and calm as possible for them and that he could see them as much as possible, including the youngest when she was born. Dating was the last thing on his mind. To my knowledge he didn’t date anyone until his youngest child was eight or nine, and even then not especially seriously.

Well even that situation sounds extremely messy and not something most people would want to get involved with.

TomatoSandwiches · 08/09/2024 20:08

No, can't be doing with that mess.

SauviGone · 08/09/2024 20:11

I'd say a woman who would date a man who had a baby on the way, is probably not in the right headspace to be dating at all, and would undoubtedly end up making many other questionable and unwise choices with regards to that man.

justconcerned · 08/09/2024 20:13

No. Life is difficult enought without any extra problems.

NoGwenItsABoxingDayTrifle · 08/09/2024 20:14

Not in a million

StoatofDisarray · 08/09/2024 20:31

Nope.

Thevelvelletes · 08/09/2024 20:36

Yay where do I sign up.. can't wait to be involved in all the drama and complicated scenarios.
Or stay single enjoy a bit of dating and hopefully your friend.. Ahem ahem..finds Mr Right.

JenniferBooth · 08/09/2024 21:39

KreedKafer · 08/09/2024 19:53

Depends on the circumstances. My brother’s ex-wife left him (effectively making him homeless) while she was pregnant with their fourth child. She was abusive throughout their relationship and openly admitted that she only stayed with him because she wanted a fourth baby and had always intended to throw him out once that was achieved. He only endured her abuse for as long as he did because he didn’t want to be apart from his children, and he would never have left her while she was pregnant. It was her choice.

However - I would add the caveat that my brother would not even have considered looking for a new relationship in the immediate aftermath of that shitshow. He was entirely focused on his children and making sure that things were as stable and calm as possible for them and that he could see them as much as possible, including the youngest when she was born. Dating was the last thing on his mind. To my knowledge he didn’t date anyone until his youngest child was eight or nine, and even then not especially seriously.

As long as the woman/women he was dating were aware and ok with that,