Thinking of kicking my partner out

[Franny0696]

So, I have had enough of my husband literally for years I have had nothing but crap from him, money wise, drinking and I've had enough I cannot do it anymore. It's now effecting my kids and I am at breaking point.

I don't know where to start, what do I do in terms of getting him to leave?

We rent £1450 per month 2 kids in nursery etc...

We are both on a joint UC as for MONTHS he hasn't been paid form him job so we have had no money now racked up 4.8K worth of debts household that need to be paid. I don't know what to do.
My husband is so unreliable, pathological liar and I cannot do it anymore. I want him gone. I know myself I will perfectly fine as the amount of crap he's put me under the last few years needs to stop.

I know we will be ok (me and kids) but where do I start to 1. Get him to leave 2. Finances? What do I do about the debts occurred with the council etc? I earn roughly £1541 a month. My outgoings are £1100 (childcare, car etc).

I just don't know what to do

I went through a very similar thing with my ex almost 4 years ago now. Its awful at the time but it will be one of the best things you’ve ever done xx

If he's on the tenancy you can't boot him out. It'll all be sorted during the divorce.
Edited to add yikes about the £1000s of debt on both your names, and not being able to afford the rent on your salary.
Have you spoken to a debt company, or entitled to website, or checked for housing you can afford, or seen a solicitor? You can get the divorce forms online.

Go and see a debt counselling service, for starters.

Well I'd be tempted to get a large empty sheet of paper and just write anything and everything down on it that needs thinking about.

Then tell him it is over and leave him to digest it, safely of course.
Then start to talk to him about him leaving and where he will go.
Start packing his stuff.

Meanwhile you go and see debt counsellor.
Start making the right benefit applications, get debt counsellor to advocate for you if needs be.
Find out what you're going to have to spend each month.
Debts can be tackled a few pounds at a time.

Disengage from husband and start planning new life really, but be safe and don't allow arguments that could turn nasty.

You can get a Court Order to exclude him from your home

It’s classed the family home. You can’t just make him leave.

You can’t just get the landlord to sign a tenancy for just you. Because it would still be the marital home.

A court order will apply if there abuse and you would need a catalogue of evidence to prove that.

If he isn’t abusive, you don’t want to go down that route as it will make the divorce process at lot worse and a lot harder. And you risk your kids. If it comes out it’s a lie you could end up losing them or then deciding they want to be with their Dad, now or in the future.

You need to start the divorce process. You may end up having to rent somewhere different alone.

The very first and most important thing you need to sort is housing

Ask him to leave. If he doesn't, you need to start looking.

I'd be looking for a smaller, cheaper place to rent.

Also, is it joint debt?