Lazy partner

[Senmum1981]

is anyone else’s partner and in laws so lazy I mean my partner is lazy even without the in laws round ours I have to push him to do some house work and when he doesn’t I do it anyway and juggle 4 kids with 2 of the kids having Sen needs . But it’s even worse when his parents come over he and his parents will sit there his parents leave there rubbish on the floor and I’m running around tidying up .my partner is either gaming or listening to music and the in-laws requesting hot drinks . It’s even worse if I go out I come back to a complete mess of kids mess and adults mess what do I do . I’ve told him keep it tidy and he shouts at me and then says fine I won’t have them over then makes me feel bad help

Mine is pretty lazy too. I have to remind him (sometimes beg!) to have a shower! Does my head in. Luckily his family rarely come over to ours unlike yours. I guess with his fam being messy when they visit, not much you can do about that unfortunately. I think you may just have to accept that. However, I do think your partner has room for improvement. Not sure if this will work for you but it does for me; I start doing the house work and then he follows. If I tell him what to do, it never goes well (he like a bloody child). But if I begin the housework, after a short while he starts to do house work too. Maybe try this? As for when his fam visit, maybe ask him ie ‘hun can you help me with this please?’