Happily married but constantly craving other men

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I'm in my mid-30s and have been married for 8 years. My husband is wonderful in every way and we have two small children.

Just lately, though, I can't stop fantasising about other men! It really depresses me to think that I'll never have that exciting honeymoon period ever again. My husband is actually really good in bed and treats me like a princess. We have a very active and satisfying sex life and often try new things. But even while we're doing it, I've started imagining that he's someone new and unfamiliar. I'm having naughty thoughts about several of my male friends and acquaintances, even (shamefully) my friends' husbands. I would NEVER act on any of these thoughts, but they're really getting me down. The silly thing is, I'm not wishing for a new partner. Just that initial buzz that I'll never get to experience again. After that, I'd want my husband back!! Ideally I'd love to have another man join us for a threesome, but I am certain that my husband wouldn't want that. I know that because we talk often about our desires and fantasies, and it's come up before.

Does anyone else ever feel like this? How do I move past it?

It's a cliche but you are absolutely right that the grass isn't always greener. To lose a loving, trusting relationship for the possibility of short lived but exhilarating excitement.

Difficult to advise as my marriage lasted less than a year as I realised I just couldn’t not go with my instincts/desires.
One thing I have realised though after lots of conversations with married girlfriends is you’re definitely not alone.
id consider the role play idea, maybe act your somebody else try and find his desires and act on those x

Hi OP,
Did this happen to you suddenly?
Maybe a hormonal check would help. Wonder If it’s early peri-menopause.
if you and your husband have agreed to a monogamous relationship don’t throw it all away for a fantasy.

I think what you're feeling is very normal. You've been with DH for a long time and you're still very young. Of course you miss the initial excitement

Please don't act on your feelings, though, as your husband sounds wonderful

I think this is normal, I've had phases of feeling like this. Humans crave novelty. There's nothing wrong with fantasising!

Having been in the OPs place I think it is not.
Finding other people attractive and being aware of it is fine. However, craving is probably a red flag for the marriage. I think the OPs marriage is salvageable so I would look into what is missing.

i used to feel like this when i was married too!

5 years on i'm single, had a few dabbles dating but the thought of if men now makes me sick.

So i guess it was more fantasy!

Trust me, been there, done that, the grass is not greener, I was working overseas, I lost the best woman that ever happed to me and the mother of our children, been on my own 11 years now!!!

@Mush62 were you like op fantasizing about other women?

No i did the deed and lost the most important lady in my life, 25 years down the drain, i'll regret it for the rest of my life.

The perils of working overseas for 6 years, one discretion and it cost me my whole world. On my own now since 2014.

I know this thread is a few months old but... OP, loads of those men are going to be shit in bed. Just saying. The reality would be unlikely to live up to your fantasy.