Have name changed as have posted about this friend before and with other posts could be outing.
(TLDR friend with two young DS in abusive relationship, I suspect she has been attacked but can't get hold of her to help)
Friend is in a very abusive relationship with her husband. She has 2 very young DS. Friends DH is emotionally, verbally and financially abusive but has never been physical.
I am aware than her DH reads all of her messages on her phone and tracks her movements.
She has confided in me numerous times about leaving but is very concerned (rightly so) about the financial implications as he has really stitched her up. I have encouraged her to leave and sign posted resources that may help.
I usually see this friend a couple of times a week and had plans with her last week to go and do an activity with both of our DS's.
She cancelled the day before saying youngest DS(3) was unwell, fair enough, told her hope he was feeling better soon and let me know if anything I can do to help. I have since found out she told someone we both know, but who she would not know I would talk to, that she has been in a car crash and has facial swelling that happened a few of days ago
After hearing this I panicked and text her not mentioning the car crash as I didn't want to put her on the spot. She said she was fine but was now also ill and had been in bed for 2 days.
I had a bag of her DS's so popped round with it to check in on her, she told me she couldn't come to the door as she was vomittimg snd didn't want me to catch anything.
I have not seen her for over 6 days and no one I know has seen her.
Am I right to be concerned that things have escalated and she has been physically abused by DH? Due to the fact she has told two different stories and won't let me see her. She has no family close by, her DP's have died and she is an only child. She does not have a big support network of friends either although she is very well liked.
I have text her again and not had a response in over 13 hours.
I don't really know what to do now, I can't text her about it as her DH monitors her phone and I don't want to make things worse for her.
Am I being a paranoid stalker or does this sound like she is in a dangerous situation and has likely been attacked? What do I do?