I have realised that I no longer have that many friends (if any).

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When I was in school I had a really good friendship group (or so I thought). Over the years we have drifted and now I realise that I have colleagues but no real friendship group anymore. We drifted for stupid reasons but ultimately I think because maybe we didn't have anything in common anymore.
I recently got married and struggled to pick bridesmaids, people to come to a hen party etc ... And now I'm pregnant I realised that I don't want this for my future child. I want him or her to have friends.

But does this happen to people? Is this normal? Maybe it is and I'm just sad over nothing. I hope so! ☺️

School and work are very situational, you don't have much control over who you meet or how much you'll have in common, as people if not in terms of subject matter at work. You were lucky to have a good friendship group at school but it's common for that not to last, or actually not to happen at all. What about interests and hobbies, sports, community activities, volunteering, that kind of thing, where there's a common interest or cause? Have you met anyone that way? I would avoid looking to parent groups as the solution, you may well get lucky, but it's very situational again. I'd try and dig deeper.

Life is very situational though. I don’t really think that’s an excuse for dumping your friends - friends are meant to see you through situations and life. Especially school friends - you’re not just thrust together because you’ve had a kid at the same time or work in the same place, you were formed over the years in parallel. Sure people grow apart etc but you’d hope a handful would make the effort. I keep making the effort for my lifelong friends who are at totally different life stages and geographical locations to me.

But that hasn't happened for the OP so what do you suggest?

I disagree anyway. School friends aren't necessarily lifelong and there's no 'should' about it. I (personally and through others' experiences) know a lot of school friendships that have been very genuine, have not just ended at the school gates and have endured into young adulthood. However they've diverged into quite different values as life has become established and drifted without fault. Or maybe some minor disagreement but no harm meant, looking back.

Great if some continue (I've still got a couple but don't really miss the ones I'm not in touch with although I wish them well) but you really were thrown together by chance. As always gets mentioned, friends are for a reason, a season or a lifetime and the lifetimers can meet at any age.