Why would a private school not disclose SEN to parents?

[Spudulanky]

Any real reason not to disclose this to parents? What would the top reasons be?

child’s confidence and self esteem being affected.

Because schools can't diagnose ?
Have you talked to them about your concerns

This is confusing.

Do you think your child has SEN?

If you think your child has SEN then the usual route is to ask for a meeting with the teacher and discuss the possibility.

Depending on what they say you can then either get more advice/diagnosis from educational psychologists, go via GP for autism assessment etc.

Schools can't diagnose a child with SEN. A professional has to do that and usually the parents are very involved in the process.

Disclose to whom? It is up to a parent to get the child diagnosed and up to the parent to tell the school be it private or public that really is the least of anyones concern. If it is so other parents know a child has sen then its up to nobody to disclose anything.

Same reasons as state schools. They dont want the hassle or cost of providing extra support.

Are you saying they aren't disclosing that a child bullying yours has SEN and/or which type of SEN?
Or are you saying disclose the number of children with SEN in the class/school?

This is a common misconception on MN.

A Special Educational Need is exactly that. Educational.

SEN does not necessarily mean the child has a diagnosible condition. It means the child needs additional support in school. Sometimes this is because of a diagnosble condition, sometimes not.

Schools can identify that a child has a special educational need without a diagnosis. Sometimes, there is nothing to diagnose.

Sometimes a child will have a diagnosis and will be on the SEN register but their needs can be met within universal provision meaning nothing additional needs to be put into place.

Without some actual information from the OP, no one will know.

I mean ADHD looks very probable but we have no formal diagnoses yet.. it does run in the family..

he is in a small class of 12 and we had a few meetings last year where they were sketchy but implied it using clever language.. also asking whether adhd ran in our family.. shunning any responsibility to help/support.. saying he is fine.. at times impulsive but fine.. my DC has come home telling me of events/stories that point to him struggling during the school day..

he came home saying I feel like ‘I’m not worth it’ he was told he was ‘rude’ he’s is only 6!

he basically isn’t praised often, is overlooked entirely. A real shame. We didn’t want to move him so soon but may have to as we feel this school could negatively impact him.

School can't diagnose adhd.

If it is a private school then some are more supportive than others.

Some will manage out children who they feel can't cope.

School can't suggest a diagnosis.

Sounds like they have been giving you lots of hints though to pursue an ADHD assessment?

I'd ask the school if they would support you with a referall.

Incompetence.
State schools need parental consent to do assessments.

My neighbours son went to a very well thought of private school and they didn’t notice he was dyslexic. I’m appalled people pay these mediocre places so much.

Sounds like you’re paying for a totally inadequate school. Get him out of there.

DH has ADHD and attends private school. The school helped me with the diagnosis because they happened to have a nurse who knew the consultant (they sent their kids to the school). They won’t do it for you though - you will need to find and book yourself an assessment

As others have said, school can't diagnose but also it might be because he's too young. Not sure if it's national policy or not but where I am schools can't refer until children are 7, because there is so much natural variation when they are young.
Schools have to be careful about what they say because parents can get fixated on a diagnosis/anxious about there being something 'wrong' with their child when the child might end up not meeting thresholds for a diagnosis.

I don’t quite follow your post. Schools can’t ‘disclose’ a special educational need (as they can’t diagnose so it would be impossible for this to happen without parents knowing). They can only suggest to parents that they (the parents) pursue a diagnosis. This doesn’t normally happen in one conversation but over a period of conversations, in other words the school will start to ‘sow the seeds’ that there might be an issue rather than a brutal single hit. It sounds like your dcs school has started these conversations, it’s up to you to take the next steps. It’s hard to tell from what you’ve said if they think there might be some SEN or if he was just rude / impulsive and needed to be reminded. Either way they are flagging up that he has had some issues and of course they will tell you in a subtle way. Parents very rarely react well to blunt messages “I’m afraid he is very rude and doesn’t listen” would be an awful thing to say! Why do you feel he is overlooked? it’s pretty impossible to overlook a child in a class of 12, especially if they are lively / impulsive.

If adhd looks probable you should be getting your own child diagnosed.

There is no responsibility on a school to seek support on a child that is not diagnosed. Again this is your responsibility. The school cannot support a child that has not been diagnosed. Also a child is in school to learn not to be praised whether they have adhd or not.