I have a friendship from nursery school, my longest standing friend. For all intents and purposes we have always had the ‘best friend’ label.
She has always been quite a negative person, glass half empty, very hard done by.
there was a time around 10 years ago after a very traumatic time in my life I nearly cut the friendship off because she was very little support but still looking support from me on the most trivial of issues which was so insensitive.
i really considered ending the friendship but instead I decided to just accept her how she is.
She is the type of person that asks for your advice and when you think about it and give her it she doesn’t want to her it. But someone else could give her the exact same advice and she will think this person is amazing and do exactly as they said.
it’s got to the stage where I just now tel her what she wants to hear- probably not what she should actually do but she doesn’t want to hear anything else. However this doesn’t sit well with me as I don’t feel I’m acting with integrity but it feels like what I have to do to maintain this friendship.
she’s the type of person that makes silly decisions about money, men etc and asks you before she does it and then doesn’t listen and then uses me as her only emotional support to deal with the consequences of her actions.
has anything any experience of this type of friendship and could give me advice?