What would you do

[Anxiousmess23]

So my friend from work has asked if I want to go to Paris with her for 2 nights/3 days in October. I really want to go but feel so guilty about leaving my son.. He's 15 months old and never had more than one night away from him. He's never stayed at grandparents overnight either, he has such a lovely bond with them and never wants to leave when he's been with them for the day.

I spoke to my partner about it and he doesn't seem pleased. He' suffers with fibro and AS so he's in pain all the time. I mentioned his parents would love to help out and I also have family too I can rely on. He doesn't want me to go. He says he's not the boss of me but it's making me feel horrible :( what would you guys do? I need some advice

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At the very least, try and explore further how you could have time away. It sounds like it would be manageable and your son would have a great time. Your partner needs to know that you have a life and friendships outwith your family unit - if he is struggling with that, it is all the more important that you go. It would be interesting to know more about what your partner’s objections are.

I wouldn't have been comfortable leaving my DS at that age because my husband was worse than useless but if your in laws are happy to have him I can't see the problem. I expect your DH feels left out.
All the women I know with fibro still manage to look after their children and do everything else, or are forced to.

I'd look At feasibly what help your dh could have. So would he manage if dc went to his parents for one night and two days so he just had one day one night. Or could he have parents on call if he needs them.

I'd also practice sleep over before as practice.

Absolutely you should go.
Your husband should be able to look after a 15 month old child by himself. If he can't he has no business being a father. But even if he can't cope with what you do every single day, you say you have other options and you should use them.

Why exactly does he not want you to go? What are his reasons?
"I don't want to" isn't a valid argument for grown men. He should be able to explain. At least he should be able to tell you what would make him feel more comfortable. If he can't even communicate that, then don't give any more thought to what he wants.

Maybe for your own peace of mind, do a practice sleep-over in the next few weeks.

I have a 3-year old and a 5-year old and they've been spending the night with my mum since they were 6 months old, and with my in-laws since they were 1. They've always been really happy to go over there, come back well fed and spoiled with attention, and op top of that my batteries have been recharged. It's a win-win.

Even if he He' suffers with fibro and AS so he's in pain all the time ?

You should go @Anxiousmess23 What are his reasons for not going? Might it be as simple as him feeling sad that he can't do that sort of thing with his pain?