End it or not

[Lostsoul13136]

So I'll try and explain this the best I can .I have been in a relationship for 10years ( we live 30miles apart ) and not together .During the relationship iv suffered severe anxiety and we had problems in the start which lead to my anxiety but we have tried to work through it it's been a long process .my other half has a temper !! He's never raised at hand at me I must add !! But I do love him but when he goes in a mood I can't handle it !! It's ok as we don't live apart but its coming to the time we really need to live together ( we havent 'as he's kids .iv kids ) but they are Over 16 now ...I just can't see me ever living eith him even though I love him .he has changed but iv this doubt and his ex said something to me about his mood

Dump him.
He's an angry loser.
Do not allow him near your children or home.

Leave him.
Even if you don’t, there is no need to live together.

End the relationship. He may never be physically violent but you will always be on edge if he has a temper in a shared house.

You don't mention your age or whether you're interested in finding a better match for yourself. You've been with the guy 10 years. Is that because he's become too much of a habit to let go of?

I agree about never moving in within. That would ruin your life.

He has caused you anxiety issues. He has a temper, you can't handle his moods.

Nobody in a happy and healthy relationship would be posting here because they were worried about having to move in with their partner.

You need to end this relationship, if you won't do that then you definitely need to keep your home for yourself and your children, do NOT live with him.

So I'm 45 !! And iv no interest in another relationship tbh ..it's so hard though when you know they love you and I do him but were so different. I just can't handle his mood swings as apart from that he's great ..it's so hard

We have the best sex everything it's just his moods ...I can't cope as they come from nowhere

I lived with a guy like this for 15 years, it ruined my spirit and that of my kids. This will not get better, he will not change. I'm buzzing to be starting my new life at 40, couldn't imagine diving back into that at 45 🤢 Go be happy and carefree 🦋

You make me sound old lol x

You have the best sex cause of the massive hormone swings between good times and bad times. It's toxic. Though it feels good at the time. It's fuelling your addiction to him that's caused by the mood swings!

No you're not but you will be by the time you suffer it for 15 years lol

The reason you are asking this here, on this forum, is because you already know you need to dump him.

He's a fucking disaster waiting to happen if you move him into your home. Don't be daft.

There is absolutely no way at all that you really need to live together . What you really need to do is end this relationship

I know x

Then act accordingly. Don't inflict this mess up on your family.

Thank you all .I'm building up the strength to end it ..I know it's right and I'm actually happy to be alone n happy and love life , that says it all eh .I won't see him till next sun which is my birthday so I'll do it b4 then over the phone though as I dread the ramifications

I will thanks for advice scary as iv not many friends anymore but I will rebuild

Good luck stay strong and safe and try not to enrage him - he sounds horrible!
Don't agree to meet him unless its a public neutral place and you know the triggers that set him off, try to avoid those. You want a quiet uneventful exit, no drama.
Tell us after how it went x