What is this?

[Nightswimmer80]

So I discovered my partner has been watching some videos on YouTube of WWE from 2006. These aren't wrestling videos but women in underwear basically acting like strippers. I only found it as he used the laptop and it was logged into my YouTube account and came up on my phone. I don't know what to think, just harmless or something else?

I think it’s pretty self explanatory what it is. If you’re not comfortable with it, then tell him. Only you can decide if it’s harmless or not. If you don’t mind him whacking off to videos of other women then it is what it is. If you do, then you have to make that clear to him.

What was the video?

You know him more than we do but why would he wank to WWE instead of just porn?

Teenage fantasy. WWE girls were highly sexualised and prob were the first wank bank material for a lot of young guys. Plus not everyone wants something as graphic as porn. He might like the stripper element of it. And some men will wank to anything.

He's always told me that he likes women in their underwear and had pictures of them on his walls when he lived at home which I was shocked at as I m surprised his mum allowed it. I had to Google WWE as had no idea what it was. These videos are from 2006 so very old. I'm not comfortable with this as I find it disrespectful but can't say anything as he will get defensive and angry, also I'm unwell and just don't need any more worry in my life.

Sorry OP, but if you are upset by something as trivial as this then you are aren’t ready for a relationship until you sort out your insecurities.

It’s not porn, it’s not even close, and for most men, isn’t stimulating enough to get them off. And yes, I guarantee you he also watches porn.

these are the card girls, same as
in boxing, same as formula one ( in the olden days ) - I never really understood what the point of them
was tbh.

also, he could have been searching for an actual wrestling and this came up instead. YouTube will then show other similar videos to ones you’ve already watched.

Honestly, it’s not even worth worrying about. If I was your OH and you questioned me about it I would just laugh and tell you not to be so silly.

I mean that alone suggests you need to end it. He's wanking over live images of real women but if you say you don't like it he'll get angry and it'll add to the worry in your life. That's not healthy.

He’s clearly using it to get off. I f you’re uncomfortable with that then you should be able to talk to him about it. There is nothing wrong with you being uncomfortable with your partner getting off to other women. If you can’t share how you feel without him getting angry, that is a massive red flag. It sounds like you might be walking on eggshells around him and that usually indicates emotional abuse. No-one needs that in their life but especially so if you’re unwell. You need a good environment in which to get well. Read this

https://dn790007.ca.archive.org/0/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

and contact women’s aid for support to make an exit plan. You don’t have to put up with someone who punishes you for having feelings and wanting to talk about them.

Thank you for your post and for realising my feelings about this are valid unlike another poster who seems to think this is a joke. I find it odd he was watching this as he bought a dvd of this just a few months ago, I discovered. Shame there's nothing similar for women then I could get my own back, but seriously it's all just very sleazy, I can't wait to leave this life.

Your Feelings are absolutely valid. A lot of women feel the same way and there’s nothing wrong with that at all. Mumsnet always has people who like to rip into the OP’s who have come for support. It’s pretty nasty and for me says a lot about the person. Try to ignore those types. I wouldn’t try to get back at him because that will just cause you further prolonged hurt which you don’t need. Have a read of the book and think about your relationship. You don’t have to stay in any relationship if it’s making you unhappy, invalidated or goes against your worldviews and values. You shouldn’t be worried to express your concerns for fear of aggression. That’s a real problem that you should really consider. If you need support to leave, speak to friend and family you can trust and also women’s aid.

I know the films he was watching as I quite like wrestling. It was a different product back in the 2000s you had the Rock, Stone Cold and so on in the Attittude Era. Some of it was very good, but a lot of it wasn’t.

During that time WWE was going through a phase where the women were known as “Divas”. It was an awful time because these ladies couldn’t actually wrestle and were there to look nice. There were still women who could wrestle ie Lita and Trish and Molly Holly and so on, but in the owner Vince McMahon eyes they were there to look at. He was probably watching “Divas Desert Heat” or “Viva Las Divas”, essentially both photo shoots of the “Divas” wearing bra and panties (but at no time showing anything else as its still classed as a 15).

Interestingly, Mr McMahon has had to “retire” after allegations were allegedly made concerning his extras marital affairs. The term “Diva” is no longer used and instead we get proper ladies like Rhea Ripley, Iyo Sky and Asuka who are very capable of holding their own.

That said, there are still men and women who seemingly come to ring to wrestle in their underwear. Today its their choice though.