Sorry it's a long one!!
My narcissistic ex was trying to get out of paying child support by telling me he couldn't afford payments even when he could - he was going on luxury holidays and buying expensive watches (our son is 4 months old).
I had enough, so went through CMS who gave me a figure double of what I was asking of him based on his salary. He then went and quit his job, and CMS amended the amount from £1270 pcm to £0.
He told me that if I drop the CMS claim, although unemployed, he will give me £250 pcm, to which I refused (I would rather have nothing, then when he gets a job, take what my son is rightfully owed via CMS).
He told me that its my fault he isn't paying, because I went to the CMS behind his back, (because I am a goldigger in his eyes) and he knows I will make ends meet somehow so he hasn't paid towards our son for a couple of months.
So, I am currently living off my own money (SMP & a bit of UC) and haven't asked him for anything.
Suddenly today, I get a payment of £500 from him, which is was we had originally agreed from the get go. I said thanks, and he said you're welcome. He disn't mention dropping CMS or anything.
I should be happy he has finally decided to contribute, but I feel suspicious of his change of heart.
He rarely does anything that doesn't benefit him, and I have already had some nasty surprises from him this year (sleeping with my best friend and having a secret relationship with her under my nose whilst I was pregnant most recently), which were disguised by his 'niceness'.
I always encourage a relationship between him and our son, despite how mentally abusive he was to me.
This week his car broke, so I did pick ups and drop offs as a favour so he could still see our son in the comfort of his own home, as he isn't welcome to my parents house where I am currently staying due to how he treated me during our relationship (I did the favour for my son and to give me a break, not for him).
I didn't want to drop our son there, go home, go back, and drive back home again, so he invited me in to stay and we spent the day together for the first time with our son.
Then when I got home, a few hours later the money hit.
What could be going on?
The anxiety is making me feel sick - I feel like he is up to something and its driving me mad because I literally cannot handle any more surprises or hurt from him.
Please bare in mind that he is an extremely narcissistic, machiavellian type of person.
Tia
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