Hello, I need some advice as I think I am in shock and do not want to bring this up to my family/friends until I am confident about what I want to do. I have been with my partner for almost 5 years and we've been engaged for almost 1 year now. We are getting married in around 9 months and everything has been going great so far. We just got back from a trip and I had this weird gut feeling that something was going on so I stupidly checked his applewatch and looked at his subscriptions and noticed that he was subscribed to different hookup / fetish apps and that he had downloaded Tinder about a year ago. I confronted him and his excuse was that he was embarrassed about telling me about his kinks and fetishes and that he downloaded these apps just to look and swipe through other peoples profiles so that he could see what they were into and basically just get off to the profiles. He swears that he didn't message, meet, or talk to anyone on any of these apps and I want to believe him but I don't know what to do. I have his location on find my friends so I know for a fact that he doesn't go anywhere except to work, and school. We also live together so i know his schedule. I also saw that he had downloaded tinder and he said that he downloaded it about a year ago just to "see what was on it". He swears he's 100% confident that he wants to marry me and be with me and has expressed his guilt and apologized but I know he wouldn't have told me all of this if he hadn't been caught.
If you found out that your long term boyfriend or fiance was on dating apps like this just to "look" because they were embarrassed about a fetish that they have, what would you do? Would you try and work on it and seek couples therapy or would you end it and call off the engagement/wedding?