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How do I face ex when I acted "crazy" ?

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dontsworery · 04/09/2024 15:32

3 years ago I started dating a woman and she had form as a womaniser (did the cliche thing of thinking I could change her)
Anyway she wasn't very nice to me and treated me bad ,messed me around,she honestly broke my heart,slept with random women etc and basically laughed about it to me.
Picked me up,threw me away (our mutual friend (not mine anymore ) fell out with me and that was it for our relationship.
We continued to speak for a year after and we still flirted and chatted on the phone most weeks .
Then she got a girlfriend and said she didn't want to ever speak to me again (blocked me and everything) (my mum had died 4 days before and I was a mess)
Obviously I was heartbroken ,I had came to terms with no relationship but not even worthy of friendship,especially after loosing mum.

Next week we are both at the same event and this is the first time since she blocked me a year ago I've seen her.
How do I go ? After making a fool of myself?
When she told me he didn't want to speak to me again I sent a long rambling message about how he hurt me etc

She didn't reply and that was the last I heard from her.

I'm going to the wedding with girlfriend (who I live with and been with nearly 2 years)
I'm happy now but I'm mortified how I behaved sending the long text and asking for explanations
How do I go after this ?
She used to always say I was acting "crazy" if I asked her a simple question
If I asked where I stood etc

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Doodleflips · 11/09/2024 20:14

BeNavyCrab · 09/09/2024 10:39

I would go to the wedding with your girlfriend and enjoy yourselves. I would be civil but not talk to your ex anything more than small talk. Should she try to say anything mean or undermining to your girlfriend, I would say something along the lines of, "Can I introduce you to my ex, whatever her name is. She's the person I told you about who wasn't faithful to me and dumped me as a friend immediately after my mum died."
I'm pretty certain that she won't stick around long after that. However you don't want to get into a big scene at someone else's wedding so if you can avoid her, that would be best.

This is a terrible idea, and sure to cause drama at someone’s wedding.

Spinet · 11/09/2024 20:19

Just make sure your girlfriend knows the situation and that there can be no surprises so that if your ex decides to 'reveal' something about you/ your relationship it has no power because your GF already knows. Otherwise just have a nice time and be distantly polite.

partiallydeflatedbutoptimistic · 11/09/2024 20:19

She's a twat and not worthy of you after what she's done how awful and nasty especially when it came to your mum. Doesn't that show you that you are a better person

I would go (looking like a hottie) and nothing makes someone hotter than someone with a big smile!

Get that smile on, maybe treat your self to a glass of champagne before you get there and dance the night away with your girlfriend.

YOU are in a better place, YOU have made it out the otherside, YOU aren't the same person you were and YOU are happy now. And that's all you need to do.

StormingNorman · 11/09/2024 20:20

You don’t have to act any way around her. Just a polite smile of recognition in passing. If you get stuck in a group together, ask how she is.

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