Bit of context. Me and my partner have recently had some relatioship struggles that we managed to work through. He took some time away at his mother's house. He came home 2 weeks ago.
Since he came home i dont feel we have had any quality time alone as he works away 4 days on 4 days off. The weekend gone i had arranged to have a few glasses of wine with a friend up the road (i never do this literaly a first for me) My SO turned to me and said "since your drinking on the weeked i want to go out with my friend tomorrow" (This was not an issue just felt very lst minute and he had literally just gotten home from work at 8pm.
Anyway all of this happened. After i had been for a few drinks with my friend he seemed off and turned over and went to sleep when i returned home instantly.
He has now said he wats to go out drinking again this weekend with his friend. My issue is he already knows i hd plans that day to take our daughter shopping to spend birthday money and i had already asked if we could have some quality time together. I asked if him drinking every weekend was going to become a regular thing. it's spmething he always stated he would never be interested in as hes not a big drinker. But he has this new friend who has already caused issues in our relationship and no matter how i have tried to explain he doesent seem to want to listen.
I have suggested he ask his parents to maybe look after the kids so we could have time together as a couple and he said he gave up asking becausr they never could look after them. So What do i do? just give up? suffer in silece feeling like he just doesent want to spend time with me. He says watching tv in bed is spending time with him. Not when hes sat playing games on his phone.