Would you go on this date?

[Lambzig]

I met someone about 13 months ago, we had two good dates, a very nice kiss, planned to meet again, then I went on holiday and I cant remember if the conversation fizzled out or if he stopped messaging, I think I was the last to reply. I remember thinking thats a shame because I liked him, but you know, dating....

He got back in touch last week and wants to meet up again, said he wasn't really in the right place for dating last year, but is now and I have stayed in his mind.

Cynically I think oh you've had no luck elsewhere, but a bit of me would like to see him again. But perhaps the fact that I cant decide says it all.

I walked away from dating earlier this year because I wasn't over an ex, not sure I am now, so dont know what to do.

I wouldn't re-date someone who obviously back burnered me to 'try out' someone else

I had one last week who contacted me after five years.
I mean come on.
I just said to him, it cant have been that good if you waited five years, to reply.
Then i blocked him.

He could’ve said there was no spark or he wasn’t in a place for dating last year but instead he ghosted you.

I would be inclined to ignore him.

We don't know he ghosted the OP.....she herself says she really cant remember.

In these circumstances I would say go for it.....but if you don't think you are over an ex then it might be better to wait until you are. So more to do with how you are feeling about yourself than about him, iyswim.

If you can't decide and not sure about then don't do it, from my dating experience, they come back around when bored and exhausted all other options.

Gosh thats depressing but that was my thought too.

Maybe meet up but not in a date scenario just to clear a few things up at the very least. If anything to get some closure on it.

It’s a date, not a marriage proposal. If you fancy it/ him, just have a daytime coffee or something. Then you can see how you both feel.

Yes I am probably overthinking it - I haven't had much dating experience for decades. Not sure I like it much.

How would you feel if it fizzles again/ he loses interest? I'd say that you're not 100% sure who messaged last and a holiday got in the way very early on. Therefore if you can take a potential repeat on the chin and quite liked him, why not go along with no expectations and high boundaries.

Don't pick up where you left off re kissing. Could be a good barometer regarding your ex at least.

If you think it would sting, leave it.

Depends why you are dating.
Are you looking for a leg over and a few nights out?
Or a relationship?

Because he sounds like the former rather than the latter. If he wasn't that bothered about you last year (and you about him) what's going to have changed?

I don't think I'd care if it fizzled out but that makes me feel like why bother.

Definitely looking for a relationship, but not necessarily long term.

I think i'll just say no.

I'd go, just for something to do.
Why not, after all?
It's not a proposal of marriage. Just coffee, or the cinema or a couple of drinks.